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Feb 152 min read
I'm Afraid to Start Counselling: Overcoming Fear
Counselling can seem like a scary thing to do for so many reasons. It is hard to start something new. Here are some things which might help.


Jan 252 min read
A Better Way to Cope
We all have ways that we have learned to manage the difficulty and stress in life.


Jan 41 min read
Brokenness and Tender Places
We are all broken people. Living in a broken world. Surrounded by other broken people. We find the most pain when these tender places are...


Dec 28, 20242 min read
Can I Ask...Is EMDR creepy?
Someone asked me this question recently and I've wondered if others think it too. Many things that we're not familiar with can seem...


Dec 7, 20242 min read
O Come All You Unfaithful
An over-sparkly Christmas experience can miss those in pain. Yet it is in the dark, empty, smelly places that God is often working unseen.


Nov 30, 20242 min read
One of My Favourite Ways to Calm: Be still and know
One of my favourite ways to help calm my own mind and body is through a breathing exercise which incorporates Psalm 46:10.


Nov 16, 20242 min read
Overwhelmed? It's time to HALT
If you find yourself overwhelmed with stress, feeling it's difficult to make decisions or easily getting into conflict with others: H.A.L.T.


Oct 26, 20242 min read
You Are Enough
Being enough means not being perfect. It means being approachable, being broken, being a seeker of renewed relationships, and ...


Oct 12, 20241 min read
Counselling Is Brave Work
It takes incredible courage to do the kind of deep-heart work that people do in counselling.


Sep 28, 20242 min read
You're Worth Protecting
You're worth protecting.
Sit with that for a moment. Now take a deep breath and read it again...
You are worth protecting.


Sep 7, 20243 min read
Control: The Fried Egg Model
I talk to a lot of people about fried eggs. They are a great way to reflect on a common area of struggle: control.

Aug 24, 20242 min read
Learning emotions through children's books
For those who didn't learn how to notice, identify, and regulate emotions as a child, children's books on emotions are so helpful.


Aug 10, 20242 min read
Messy people
I often hear people say that they feel "messy" or "not good enough" to be in relationship with others.


Jul 20, 20242 min read
Average is Underrated
Noticing average things as being okay means noticing that certain things are actually predictable in a way that isn't harmful.

Jul 6, 20242 min read
Dark Clouds, Deep Mercy - Lament
Sometimes we feel that the urging in the bible to "not be afraid" feels like a condemnation of fear and anxiety.


Jun 28, 20241 min read
More About EMDR
If you're considering trying EMDR, you might be interested in what others have to say about it as an approach.


Jun 22, 20242 min read
Boundaries are like gardens
Part of what makes the botanical gardens beautiful are the boundaries. If you come into the botanical gardens and dig up roses and step all


Jun 8, 20242 min read
It's okay to not be okay . . .
It's okay to not be okay . . . but it's not okay to stay that way. We all have times in life where we are struggling more than normal.


May 25, 20242 min read
Try Softer
There are lots of books on counselling and self-help out there, but one in particular that has my attention at the moment is the book Try...


May 18, 20242 min read
What is Trauma?
One approach to defining trauma uses 3 E's: Event, Experience, Effect
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